Re-owning your sensitivity.

Many wrestle with sensitivity, viewing it as a flaw to be fixed. But what if this trait, often deemed as a weakness, is, in fact, an evolved strength? It is devastating when someone says, 'I hate this about myself'. What you might hate about yourself is the fact that you are sensitive. You believe that if you start disapproving and criticizing this part of you, this trait will cease to exist, will go away, you will feel motivated to fix it and you will stop being sensitive.

Journey with me as we unravel the misconceptions around sensitivity, challenging long-held beliefs and urging you to embrace this valuable aspect of self. Our exploration may inspire you to recognize the beauty in sensitivity, paving the way to authentic relationships and self-acceptance.

I want to challenge you to go back to when you were born. When you were a baby, did you have thoughts such as 'I shouldn't be sensitive', 'I am weak because I am sensitive'? Most of the time, the answer is no. In those early stages, we do not even have the capacity to think.

So, this voice of disapproval, judgment and criticism we hear within us is an adaptation. It is the voice of our internalized mother, father or other important figures in our childhood environment who did not want us to be sensitive. They had already assigned a negative meaning to sensitivity from their environment, and they now pass this belief to us.

Let's be honest, if we believe that something is wrong with our being sensitive, it means that it was not acceptable, it was not recognized as a valuable trait, and in general, the attitude from the people around us was or is 'you have to fix it'.

One way to have relationships with those around us is to give up this aspect of ourselves. We think with enough disapproval from our side, we will completely disown this part and thus guarantee connection with our social group. This smart mechanism ensures connection and harmony with the people around us.

We want to avoid any aspect of ourselves that seems to create conflict instead of harmony with other people. But the truth is that this part of you, or any other you have suppressed, did not go anywhere. It is still within you. It's just buried within your subconscious. We try to create harmonious relationships by becoming inauthentic but guess what. These are not authentic relationships.

There are people among us who are more thick-skinned, and our society truly uplifts, supports and values these people. However, we live in a universe where all polarities exist. Nothing exists without its opposite. Anything essential to existence is so only because its opposite is equally important. And so, being sensitive (thin-skinned) is equally important.

What we need to do first is to question, challenge and potentially change our beliefs and meanings we are assigning to being sensitive. Surprisingly, most of the time, the painful beliefs we have and the meanings we give are inaccurate. By doing that, we'll slowly come closer to our sensitivity again, and we will be able to accept and see its beauty.

If you decide to change the meaning and limiting associations you assign to sensitivity, I invite you to list what you find beneficial and beautiful in being sensitive. This will help you adopt a new perspective and attitude towards yourself and people with similar traits.

Can you see the beauty in being sensitive? I can! Sensitive people are the pioneers who build a new society contributing to human emotional, mental and physical health. Sensitive people are fine-tuned to emotions. They are aware that there is an important need behind every emotion. So, they can easily help others become aware of their needs, help to meet them and create a more vibrant life. Can you imagine a world where your needs are acceptable and honoured? Sensitive people are the ones that can give us information about what is not working because they feel and know it deep in the core of their being. As a result, they bring positive change and more sustainable systems that make our lives healthier, more harmonious and workable. Sensitive people are the bridge to the next level of humanity.

The truth is that sensitivity leads to feeling things more intensely, which is why we associate it with pain and as if it is bad for us. But is it healthy to stay and feel unaffected by what is happening around us?

For many years, the path of wholeness, integration and self-love was seen as a luxury. It is not anymore. This path of embracing your authentic self truly directs you into your mission, into your essence and more full filling and authentic life.

Have you come to the edge of what you have known yourself to be? The time has come to move from apparent separation into reunion with our sensitivity.