Creating a safe environment for healing

Across the globe, countless people are undergoing significant spiritual awakenings and choosing to make major changes in their lives.

However, such profound personal transformation can bring about feelings of fear, isolation, and uncertainty. As everything around them shifts, many individuals find themselves feeling alone and disoriented.

This period often prompts people to explore deep existential questions, experience identity crises, end unfulfilling relationships, and leave jobs that drain their spirit.

During this awakening, people face the emergence of deep-seated trauma and painful past experiences that had been previously suppressed.

And all of these changes often happen in an environment where they feel misunderstood or judged by those around them. Sadly, an environment that is not safe to express your thoughts, emotions, ideas, body and be the authentic you is not a safe environment that encourages healing and expansion. 

Consider the example of Laura, who is navigating a personal crisis. Recently divorced, she has returned to her childhood home. Her parents, who highly value strength, hard work, and logic, believe these traits are essential for everyone. They tend to be disconnected from their emotions, viewing them as a sign of weakness. Consequently, whenever Laura expresses her emotions and expresses what she needs, she faces criticism for being overly sensitive. This disapproval extends to her emotional experiences and the reality she is currently facing. She is expected to be strong and carry on as if nothing happened. 

Having lost a significant relationship, Laura recognizes the need to undergo a grieving process, which involves experiencing a wide range of emotions. For more insights on handling grief, you might find it helpful to read "What to Do If You Are Grieving."

Another example that may help you understand the concept is Jonathan’s situation. Jonathan finds himself feeling unfulfilled in his current job and recognizes that a change is necessary for his career. The thought of remaining in his position brings him considerable distress. However, his friends and family hold a rigid perspective on what constitutes success; for them, it means securing a job, attaining a high position with a good salary, and maintaining that role for life. They struggle to comprehend that not everyone shares the same aspirations, as individual values, desires, and needs can evolve over time.

When Jonathan shares his thoughts about pursuing a career change, he faces disapproval from his friends, who express disappointment and suggest that he should be more grateful for his current job. Additionally, his parents are unwilling to acknowledge his feelings or support him financially during this transitional phase. This lack of understanding and support from his close circle adds to Jonathan's sense of isolation as he navigates his desire for change.

It is common, no matter how painful it can be to be in these environments, for people to hold an expectation which goes along the lines " I should be capable of loving myself and embracing the true me even if I'm around this person or people who constantly disapprove of me, criticise and put me down".This expectation can be extremely unhealthy. 

There are times that what we can do is to  give people the chance to catch up with our expansion and healing .If we choose to take this step, we need to be clear of where we are, what we need, set clear boundaries and express what we are willing to do to keep the relationship with them. If the people in your life are not collaborative, consistently respond in a way that your needs are dismissed, or say yes but fail to follow through with supportive actions, it may be necessary to recognize that healing cannot occur in that environment. Accepting that the current situation is not conducive to your healing is important. This scenario can be likened to attempting to heal a broken leg while standing in the middle of a highway, where the surrounding conditions are not safe or supportive for recovery.

The question is why do you choose to stay in an environment that constantly disapproves of you? 

Which part of you hold on to this environment? 

Why? 

What is it gaining by staying there? 

For some, it may involve a tendency to dissociate, leading to shutting down your emotions and  by doing so ignore the red flags, the messages that are inherent in the pain that is triggered by insensitive, judging behaviours. 

Additionally, there may be a limited perspective on alternative possibilities or relationships outside of the current system—whether it be family, workplace, or other social circles. This narrow view can make it challenging to envision different paths or support networks, reinforcing the decision to remain in a disapproving environment.

But remember that Creating a safe environment is essential for personal healing and growth. This involves actively seeking out people and places that foster a sense of safety and support. It is important to evaluate our values and find people who are compatible with them. (Read core values) The medicine of like-mindedness, sameness and relatability is needed when we want to heal within the context of our environment. This approach does not entail rejecting or judging others; rather, it focuses on investing your energy in building or being part of an environment that provides you with a sense of belonging, healing and safety and anything else that you need. 

Although it would be great if we all believed that we can have and create a healing environment , the reality is that most of us do not.

You may feel that you are not meant to be in a good relationship, that you are not designed for them, or even that you are cursed in some way.

You may believe that you will never find someone who truly loves and cherishes you or wants to spend time with you. You might think that relationships are futile and that they will never work out for you.

I have created an innovative energy healing modality called The Chrystaline Diamond Energy, which brings the heart back into a state of harmony. In my sessions, I help you feel and release any stuck hurt, self-doubt, and trapped beliefs about relationships. This technology rearranges and declutters the heart's space, creating space for the new. It works at a deep energetic level to purify trauma and collective influences that may be preventing exploration of new possibilities for healing and connection. If you feel called to experience the power of The Chrystaline Diamond Energy, you can book a session here.

I’m here to remind you that It is safe to believe that you can express yourself and create a safe space for others to self-express. It is safe to believe that you can have boundaries and others can have their boundaries too and still be connected. It is safe to believe that you can become the best version of yourself and have others supporting you along the way and others can be supported by you. It is safe to believe that you can express your emotions and thoughts and can be embraced with curiosity and empathy and create a safe container for others too.

Although our soul is eternal, our time on Earth is limited. Let's use it wisely and seek healing in the context of our environment.

We do have opportunities, we do have resources out there and we can definitely move into a mentality of abundance.

So who are those people? 

Where are they?

How does it feel to be with them? 

What is this place that will help you feel safe? 

Where is it? 

How does it look like? 

How does it feel like? 

How do you feel in it?